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You are So Fine to Me.

Posted in Blogging, Gratitude, Life, Life lessons, Love, Uncategorized, Writing, tagged appreciation, Beauty in life, BEing present, Gratitude, healing relationships, I Love You, life lessons, Living from the heart, love and caring, love relationships, Rob Roy, thankfulness on August 4, 2013| 6 Comments »

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There are so many times when we take our loved ones for granted, forgetting to acknowledge the little things they do to make your life more bearable, fuller and happier. It is especially so when one of you is ill, and this illness will not go in a matter of days, but can linger on for months, sometimes years.

Time has a way of distorting things. Things which are important as well as those which are not. Having a sense of joy and gratitude for the simple things your partner does each day and remembering to say a simple and heartfelt ‘Thank You’ goes a long way to letting them know how much they are appreciated.

One of the films my husband and I really enjoy is”Rob Roy” with Liam Neeson and Jessica Lange. It is a beautiful story of love, faith and the togetherness of family and community. Most of all it is a love story which brings a deeper meaning to the often used phrase “I love you”, which is not used in the film.

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There is a beautiful scene in the film when he arrives home and she tells him, “You are so fine to me”. To me it spoke more in that one little sentence than volumes of words about love have in the past. It acknowledges all that they are. their faults, failings and also the greatness which is inside them.He repeats this sentiment to her later in the film Despite the hardships they go through it does not change their deep feelings for each other. There is a depth of feeling which, because it is not overt, flowery or ostentatious seems to carry so much more that the mere words might imply. Their inherent reserve made the words carry so much more weight.

So I say to all those who matter in my life, “I Love You” and more than this “You are So Fine to Me”. I am filled with a deep sense of gratitude that I have been blessed with so much. After so many years I have found true love with an amazing man, one whose is “So Fine to Me” each and every day. I can share all that I am with him and know it is accepted in his eyes and his love for me will never change. We support each other in everything we do. We grow closer in every way, every day.

I could not be more blessed. Children to be proud of and a husband to love and cherish and who loves and cherishes me. I have been Abundantly Blessed. It only took a serious illness for me to see it so clearly.

Thank you Rob Roy, and thank you Ray, “You are So Fine to Me”.

This applies for everyone. If you have someone in your life, husband, partner, friend,child, pet, the beauty of the day, the sun, moon, the ocean and trees, are all part of the Abundance of life we are Blessed with and are “So Fine To Me”. My prayer and wish for you is that they become “So Fine To You”.

Bright Blessings and Know you are always loved. Susan x

“…every person has a star, every star has a friend, and for every person carrying a star there is someone else who reflects it, and everyone carries this reflection like a secret confidante in the heart.”
― Orhan Pamuk, Snow

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Dream Catcher

Posted in Dreams, tagged day dreams, dream catcher, dreams, Gratitude, gratitude journal, heart and mind, hope, incomnia, Inner-peace, Life, love and caring, meditation, relaxation, sleep, Sleep, sleep of the innocent, sub conscious on November 15, 2012| 2 Comments »

dreaming lady

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“All men dream: but not equally. Those who dream by night in the dusty recesses of their minds wake up in the day to find it was vanity, but the dreamers of the day are dangerous men, for they may act their dreams with open eyes, to make it possible.”
― T.E. Lawrence, Seven Pillars of Wisdom: A Triumph

I am so very grateful for my dreams as they bring me solutions I cannot find when I am awake and hopes and plans for the future I want to make. They bring light and life, colour and hope when things seem dark and bleak. They reassure me that the morning will come and all things are possible to those who dream, even day dreamers.

There are so many people who with absolute certainty, will tell you that they do not dream. What they are really saying is that they do not remember their dreams. I’m certain of this because the sub conscious is never asleep, it continues to process everything which has happened, not only during the day just past but also from days long gone. As our subconscious tries to find solutions or explanations for whatever has occurred during that day, it draws on the vast store of information we have accumulated.

Our bodies are amazing organisms. In the course of one hour, let alone one day, millions of processes are performed to enable us to do what we want or need to do. The powerhouses of these processes are the heart and the brain. Without one the other cannot function, a brain without a heart dies, a heart without a brain, a breathing but unknowing organism. Without dreams, we would go insane. It’s like a master computer mainframe on a maintenance pattern, if the backup is incomplete the computer malfunctions. Not an analogy I like but it seems apt and accurate.

brain as a computer

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Tim Berners-Lee said: “Let’s use the internet as a giant brain”.

So the idea is hardly new.

So what happens when someone either cannot sleep or whose sleep is so interrupted they cannot reach that deep rem pattern where dreams occur? In extreme cases I’ve heard of people going insane. Insomnia is the bane of modern society as the pressure of doing more in less time stresses so many that they lose the ability to relax.

At present I almost envy those who are able to meditate easily, relax at will and sleep soundly with the peace of small children. I say almost because I realise envy is a useless emotion, gaining no-one anything. Yet I cannot help but dream of finding out what it feels like to relax, meditate with ease and sleep the sleep of the innocent.

meditating in bliss

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This is one of my favourite pictures of someone blissfully meditating in a beautiful place. It’s one of the places “I go” to meditate and relax, or at least try to. Sometimes it comes easy and sometimes it slips through my fingers like drops of water into a pond, unable to be held.

Today I need my blissful retreat and have found only droplets of water trickling through my fingers. It feels as though the “weight of the world” lies heavy on my shoulders and whilst I know this is an exaggeration, it is hard to find that “attitude of gratitude” I’ve been cultivating like a tender seedling for so long. What disappoints me most is that it should disappear so easily. I will bounce back, I always do, and I will continue my gratitude journal since I have found so many more things I had previously not considered to be grateful for. This is a beautiful thing.

“You simply will not be the same person two months from now after consciously giving thanks each day for the abundance that exists in your life. And you will have set in motion an ancient spiritual law: the more you have and are grateful for, the more will be given you.” – Sarah Ban Breathnach

I am designing my order for a delightful dream. I will start it off before I fall asleep and my subconscious will embroider something far better than I could have imagined. My “Dream Catcher” hanging over my bed will keep those unsettling thoughts far away and tomorrow will be a bright, new and optimistic day.

I look at the beautiful orchids my husband brought home for me, without words saying “I love you, I’m here for you and I will slay the dragons if they appear in your dreams”. Love is such a wonderful and powerful gift. I have been truly blessed.

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“The appearance of things change according to the emotions and thus we see magic and beauty in them, while the magic and beauty really are in ourselves”- Kahlil Gibran.