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“Every day, think as you wake up, today I am fortunate to be alive, I have a precious human life, I am not going to waste it. I am going to use all my energies to develop myself, to expand my heart out to others; to achieve enlightenment for the benefit of all beings. I am going to have kind thoughts towards others, I am not going to get angry or think badly about others. I am going to benefit others as much as I can.”
― Dalai Lama

There is never a time when we are not challenged to be true, to be authentic when we are interacting with other people. As Spiritual people, that is acknowledging that we are spirits in a human body, here to learn all we can before evolving into a new and greater beings and travelling to new and greater places, we have to learn to live our truth.

It sounds challenging. It sounds frightening. It may sound as though it is too much to ask of you. Yet it is not. All it is asking of you is that the true essence of your being is allowed to shine. If your inner essence, that Spiritual glow that exists inside each and every one of us, is allowed to shine its light into the world, both you and the world around you become a magical place to be.

Never forget, that when you enter this life, you are a powerful Spiritual being. We have chosen to come here and learn in this environment because it allows us so many lessons in life. Some we may wish we had avoided. Yet strange as it may seem we have chosen these lessons to learn. Learning these lessons, those hard and emotional lessons, teaches us one of the most important things we can learn here, compassion.


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We learn compassion and forgiveness for our humanness. There is no one among us who is perfect. It may be something some of us strive for, yet is it the most difficult thing to achieve because we are human. We make mistakes. We may make the same mistake over and over again. The best we can ask of ourselves and others is that they have the compassion to see, we are trying to strive for the best we can be, our highest good and for the good of all. In the end we can only ask of ourselves that we too strive to be the best we can be, that all we do is for the highest good, both for ourselves and for others.

If we can learn this that compassion comes from a heart filled with love, understanding and acceptance, then it is an easy step to find forgiveness for the apparent failings of others. It is so easy to place our expectations on others. When we do this we forget that this is our journey and not theirs, and we must show true forgiveness to ourselves and others.


Why forgive ourselves? If we cannot find it in our heart to forgive ourselves for what we do, for what we expect of others, how can we ever expect forgiveness from them? More importantly, how can we expect to be able to forgive ourselves? We are human also. A spirit in a human body, learning the same as everyone else, just at different stages and places in the arena of life.

For, truthfully, if we cannot forgive ourselves for our failing we harbour a judgement that is impossible to meet. We make ourselves feel unworthy because we cannot extend the forgiveness we show others, to ourselves. When we learn to show the compassion and forgiveness to ourselves that we readily show to others, than we can grow far beyond that which we at first expected. We can make this life in a human form, a magical experience indeed.


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This is the truth inside you which is often carefully hidden. Why – because once we have mastered this apparently simply understanding, we can show the love which is inherently within us. We can accept the differences between people and love their uniqueness. We are able to forgive their human failings because we know there are pure Spirit. A glorious energy form that has to conform to a rigid human body. It has to learn new ways of being and doing and in learning to show compassion and forgiveness towards them, we can recognise the same beauty within ourselves.

We are a beautiful Spirit. Energy is what we are and it is beautiful and pure. Forgiveness and compassion, love for all that is, is a part of what we are.


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We are part of the greater beauty of the world around us. The energy of the majestic trees, the beautiful birds who choose to live there, all the creatures of the sky and land. Their energy shines brightly into the world making a rainbow colour of beautiful life. Compassion and forgiveness for our human frailties beings a glitter and shine to the beauty which surrounds us. Let the truth that lies within see the beauty which surrounds us. Let us see each day, the glory we are a part of, and release the burden of achieving, for being a beautiful Spirit shining our light into the world, making the world a more beautiful place in which to live.

Let the Truth inside you, be the Truth that we can all share. Let the world glow with the beauty of our spiritual energy. We are all energetic beings and the brightly glowing existence we share can make the world a wondrous place. Shine your own light into the world and make the rainbow a glorious reality.


 Blessings, Susan ♥

© Susan Jamieson, 2014

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Reflections of life

 “It was one thing to make a mistake; it was another thing to keep making it. I knew what happened when you let yourself get close to someone, when you started to believe they loved you: you’d be disappointed. Depend on someone, and you might as well admit you’re going to be crushed, because when you really needed them, they wouldn’t be there. Either that, or you’d confide in them and you added to their problems. All you ever really had was yourself, and that sort of sucked if you were less than reliable.”
Jodi Picoult, Handle with Care

Its been one of those strange periods, when you know there is something coming, something unpleasant and you would do anything to avoid it if you could….. but in the end you can’t. It rears up and engulfs you and try though you may you can only try to keep some kind of footing. Some balance as everything turns you on your head.

All month I’ve said “It’s the lunar eclipse”, “It’s the partial solar eclipse”, “It’s just the sun flares”,  and finally “It was just all the above and the planetary alignment and once October was over everything should settle back to normal. Whatever normal happens to be.” I was hoping that would be the case.

Yes, I was right and yet October isn’t quite over yet. More unexpected and unpleasant news on the health front which totally blew me away. Like so many other people I’d been caught out having a “minor episode” and my heart was showing all the signs of the problem which I’d put down to stress. It’s wonderful what stress can get up to.  Yet I’m here and when I get my head around everything I’ll hopefully be back on that even keel and have my scattered wits flowing again. Just not at the moment. I need to find a stable point and be able to hold on until the world stops turning so quickly.

The only thing which has taken me by surprise, is the feeling of being let down, abandoned, by the one person I expected to understand that I was rocked to the core by this news and I thought they would cut me just a little slack. Perhaps I expected too much. It’s been a rough ride this past year and a half, but not all of it was due to my health. I’ve been riding that wave too.

I know I’ve been unpredictable for a week or so. I also know I could have handled this better. It’s not an excuse, but losing both Mum and Dad and then my dance with illness and Chronic Pain…. I simply wasn’t prepared for anything else. My bad!

So, at present I’m feeling as though I’ve been betrayed by someone I least expected it from. I didn’t need that on top of everything else. Silly of me to think it would make any difference.  Life goes on or it doesn’t. In the grand scheme of things I’m unsure if I’d be really missed if I did ‘go’. I know that’s self-pity talking and I’ll ignore it shortly.

I’m really tired and can’t seem to relax or rest. I suppose my mind is just reeling. My meditation is helping but I don’t expect miracles in a short time…. it simply has never worked out that way. I’m getting better, but I suppose I’m a slow learner. I need to let it all out… you know, have a good cry but that’s one thing I have the most trouble with. Letting go and letting my vulnerability be seen.

For good or ill, I’m done today and this is going out as it is. This makes the first time I’ve done this….. I always sit on my post for a few hours and let the ideas settle, but I think I might be able to catch a few z’s. Maybe.

I’m sorry I wasn’t stronger. I’m sorry I let you down by being  human, weak and needing support. I guess I’m not as hard and unfeeling as I thought I was. Perhaps tomorrow you’ll understand that there’s only so much a person can take before something has to give… or break.

So I’ll take my “broken heart” and hide away for a while. Heaven knows you may feel better if I’m out of the way.


Sunrise, chasing away the darkness

Blessings, Susan ♥

© Susan Jamieson, 2014

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“You must find yourself before you can know where you belong, yet to find yourself first you must know who you are. However, you will never really know who you are if you are always allowing other people to define who you should be, so be yourself and if you are still unsure of who you are then reinvent yourself.”
― Andrew James Pritchard, Smoke and Mirrors

It was difficult to settle to anything on the flight to Singapore. My last night had shown me what another lifestyle could be like. Gone were the onerous responsibilities of looking after everyone else. For a time I was treated like a Goddess and it had felt simply wonderful. I suddenly found myself reluctant to take up the reins of that heavy load of responsibility once more. I realised that there was something more to life and I had scant time to consider what I wanted from the rest of my life.

The stopover in Singapore was barely long enough to freshen up and have a coffee before it was time to catch the plane for the last and final leg of my journey. What had I been searching for? Had I found it and what did I want to do now? They felt like simple questions in one way and yet I also recognised that they were extremely important. Definitely not something to decide on a whim but to give careful thought to. Luckily, I had hours to do just that and after my sweet sleep in the lap of luxury in Athens I was wide awake.


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Singapore Airlines lived up to their reputation for making their passengers feel spoilt and very well looked after. There seemed to be an endless supply of food and drinks being offered. Drinking alcohol and flying didn’t appeal to me so the sensuous aroma of good coffee was a welcome distraction. The head steward, seeing me awake when everyone else slept, kept me company for a considerable time. Another friendly reminder that I was not alone.

As the time passed I realised that this was one of the things I had been searching for, some evidence that I was not alone. I had spent my entire adult life to this point being something for someone and had rarely had the luxury of spending time on myself. If my short stopover in Athens had shown me one thing it was that I deserved to be “spoilt” and the luxury of that one night epitomised the fact that I was worthy of good things and good times. I had no longer any need to put everyone before myself. I deserved to be spoilt too and now, I could do just that.


Four Seasons Hotel, Egypt, Luxury in every corner

I also realised that I had been thinking about the many pleasures I’d had as I travelled throughout the Middle East, Athens and Switzerland. These were no longer out of my reach. Ex-husband’s ‘away’ no longer had to rule the day. I could elect to travel in style and enjoy myself. I no longer had to deny myself these things. I deserved to enjoy my life and be spoilt too, if that’s what I wanted. I had asked the Universe to help me to find the reason for my life, where my life could go and what it would feel like to share my happiness and enjoyment with others. I had attracted to myself some of the wonders the world had to offer and my Guides, Angels, the Universe, were all willing to aide me in finding this happiness.


Surounded by Guides, Angels and Spirits.   Image courtesy of soulsanctuaryreiki.com

In my search for who I was and why I was here, I had come to realise that as a spirit in human form I could, with the help of the Universe, experience whatever I was able to manifest and the means to do it. I could even attract to me the happiness I had long been seeking and which had eluded me except in small ways. The many courses I had taken, subjects studied, my PhD in Metaphysics and all the healing courses, all were stepping stones to realising how wonderful life can be. It also made me realise that I could be helpful to others, both as a teacher and healer. Far from being “useless” as I had been told so many times, I was more than simply “useful”. I was able to see a life of helping others but also one where I was bringing happiness to myself and others, and being able to travel as I had wished to for so long.

I had, as my plane finally touched down in Brisbane, realised that my life was just beginning in many ways. A vast new array of possibilities was there for the choosing. I knew, inside my heart and soul that my life of service was just beginning. I still had much to learn, yet this time my work would be recognised and accepted. I would no longer have to feel unworthy or useless.


Bateman’s Bay, NSW

I also realised that being close to the ocean, or a body of water larger than a puddle was important to my wellbeing. I was already being assisted in finding my place in life. I was going to sell my home and move to the coast to live. Pursuing my teaching and healing would also come. How and why it would happen was not really important, knowing it would happen was. If I was to be alone or with others would also come to me as time passed.

Suddenly, I knew that my search, far from being over, was just beginning and the best part of it was still to come. A lightness I had not felt for such a long time fell over me like the caress of angel’s wings and I smiled with happiness at the thought of tomorrow and the next day and each one thereafter. As my son stepped through the gates to greet me I felt love welling up from deep inside. The pain and loneliness which had driven me on my trip had been replaced with such joy and contentment that I knew happiness would follow. How? That was part of the journey to unfold.


Susan, ready for the next phase of life

“Coming back is the thing that enables you to see how all the dots in your life are connected, how one decision leads you another, how one twist of fate, good or bad, brings you to a door that later takes you to another door, which aided by several detours–long hallways and unforeseen stairwells–eventually puts you in the place you are now.”
― Ann Patchett, What now?

I have not yet stopped searching because I also realised that to stop the search is to deny myself the excitement and happiness which is my birthright, my Spirit’s right to experience. The Spirit has an unquenchable desire to learn and to assist, both our own self and others. Until I am sure that the next step in my journey has been completed I will keep moving forward, knowing I will meet the teachers I need and those who are to be with me along the way.

It has taken me the time I needed to learn that my search isn’t over, but also that it is not a sad thing but a continuing excitement if I but allow it to come to me. With this I am content and I am happy for my search to continue as I teach, heal and learn wherever I happen to be.


Image courtesy of http://www.josephinewallart.co.uk    Where will the journey take me?


“Reach deep within, and reconnect with the essence of your being.”
― Bryant McGill, Voice of Reason


Blessings, Susan

© Susan Jamieson, 2014



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#Communication. It's Only Words

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“From this point forth, we shall be leaving the firm foundation of fact and journeying together through the murky marshes of memory into thickets of wildest guesswork.”
J.K. Rowling, Harry Potter and the Half-Blood Prince

Have you ever stopped to wonder why words cause so many difficulties? After all they’re only words, the means by which we convey our thoughts and feelings. Yet so many times, what is a simple and forgettable word to one person, can be a veritable insult to another. Is it any wonder that there are so many hurt feelings and arguments over what we mean by the words we say to each other?

Many are the words uttered in anger, or whilst feeling under pressure or stress. Do these words mean the same thing if they were said whilst calm and unpressured? I rather doubt it. At least, that has been my observation.

Computers and computer programs, have the singular honour of creating the most intense feelings of frustration for many people, even over minor matters. They are such contrary machines, aren’t they? Some days, no matter how hard you try, or follow the same steps you followed the day before, the wretched program refuses to behave as it should. You’re blood pressure rises and you can feel the irritation begin to mount.

In retrospect, it is at this point that the rest of the household, or office, should embark for points north, south, east of west. Anywhere, in fact, to avoid the likely wrath to come. But no, everyone remains and the ensuing eruption of heightened emotion spills over and someone ends up feeling hurt or misunderstood.

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“Using words to talk of words is like using a pencil to draw a picture of itself, on itself. Impossible. Confusing. Frustrating … but there are other ways to understanding.”
Patrick Rothfuss, The Name of the Wind

The irony is, the person struggling with the computer, or any appliance which is being contrary, should simple mutter under their breath, except….. Someone is sure to ‘demand’ that they repeat what they have just said. I can almost guarantee that the word “Stupid” will form part of the epithet. Guaranteed!   What’s even more certain, is that the person listening is going to hear that they are being called stupid. It may even sound as though that was the intention. Yet I am positive that the intention is that the computer, program, appliance, even the operator of the machine is really saying they are stupid for not getting it to work correctly. Perhaps if the person offering assistance has already pushed their help on the struggling and irate digitally challenged person, then they may mean they feel, momentarily that they are stupid for not being able to offer the solution.

However, I’m sure if you were able to ask that person what they meant, they would not have been accusing or abusing the other person of being stupid. Now we have a recipe for an even more bitter and disastrous interchange to occur. The mountain of misunderstanding rises moment by moment.

#Communication - It's Only Words
Image courtesy of twiki.org          No wonder my head hurts at times.

Now we have a struggling computer person, who is definitely not nerdy, feeling even more stupid themselves, plus the person offering to help, when they should have left well enough alone, feeling hurt and offended, because they feel they’ve been abused and called stupid. What a disastrous state of affairs. Why? Because of words. Words should be used to enlighten, to assist, to love and cherish, foster loving feelings and calm hurt ones, not to abuse and enrage. A classic case of miscommunication.

So where now? Somehow, through this veritable minefield of the English language, two people have to tread warily, and hope they can untangle this knotted ball of wool. I had a ball of wool recently, so knotted up that it took two hours to untangle it… I wasn’t sure I had the patience but I did succeed in the end. I know for a fact that I cursed that wool roundly and often – without it taking offense. Luckily for me!

#Communication - It's Only Words

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“I personally believe we developed language because of our deep inner need to complain.”
Jane Wagner, The Search for Signs of Intelligent Life in the Universe

Human emotions are not as easy as a ball of wool. You can’t hurt the feelings of a ball of wool. You may chop it into pieces if it is really annoying and tangled, but it isn’t going to be hurt or upset. Yet here we have two people who have to walk a tightrope and hope they reach an understanding. Why is the English language so fraught with traps? What is meant by one is not meant by another and this misunderstanding of the use of the same word can cause irreparable damage. Someone, at some time, definitely did not like people conversing.

So, I’m about to try to walk the minefield of knotted logic and understanding and hope I can get my point of view across and understand theirs, so that harmony can flower in the home once more. What puzzles me the most, is that we are speaking the same language. It isn’t as though we are talking different languages and it is an interpretation problem. Or perhaps it is. Perhaps that is the missing key.

English has been added to over the centuries, as the various conquerors have added their offerings to the base language and idioms. In retrospect, it’s not surprising there are so many misunderstandings. Perhaps I should go back to school and study English again, although I fear everyone may need to so we can all be on the same wavelength.

#Communication - It's Only Words
Image courtesy of http://www.iusb.edu    Build the base for communication.

“Oh what a wicked web we weave”. My aching head is going to bed. Good intentions will succeed in the end – survival depends on it.

“If you talk to a man in a language he understands, that goes to his head. If you talk to him in his language, that goes to his heart.”
Nelson Mandela

Very wise words.


Blessings, Susan.♥

© Susan Jamieson. August 2014


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#Role Reversal

image from arbroath.blogspot.com                                                                        Role Reversal: The hunters gather for their meal in a cage.

~“Who doesn’t want to know that we notice them and value them? And who might respond to us better when they feel that they matter? It probably cannot be overstated – it matters…that people matter.”
Steve Goodier

           Valentine’s Day. (Today in the Southern Hemisphere)  A day when lovers known or unknown, exchange gifts, where dinners of seduction are planned and escapades dreamed up, flowers and chocolates by the score are bought to celebrate the greatest gift one person can give another, love. Yet not everyone is smitten by the God of Love. For some, the idea of love seems a far cry from their reality.

I have never believed in putting people into neatly labelled baskets and saying, “this group are gifted”, “this group are the workers”, this group are the drones” and “these we kick to the kerb because they are useless”. I know there are people and organisations who work in this way. I believe it is an old model which was used to enforce the class structure prevalent at the time.

#Role Reversal

image from http://www.glogster.com –       Class Structure –   Food for Thought 

We haven’t been able to leave the class structure behind yet, but I believe we will. When that happens there will be a new way of looking at people and there will be no elite or kicked to the kerb. Think about it, why should one group of people hold themselves up as better than the rest because they either have money or a “privileged background”?

In the same way I don’t believe it is right for knowledge to be hoarded when it can be shared for the betterment of everyone. Yes, there are people who need to learn or know something first and they are to be thanked, but it is the hoarding of knowledge which is used to keep people in the ‘class structure’ of the information age.

#Role Reversal

image from izquotes.com Who bought the rights to knowledge?

Even those who are ill have abilities and knowledge which can benefit others, yet they are more often downplayed to the extent that they cannot get people to look past the fact that they may be ‘disadvantaged’ in some way.  Why should anyone become a second or third class citizen because they have an illness or disability, or because they happen to have been born within a certain racial or social structure? Segregation in any way is wrong. History has shown that all too clearly.

There may be those who want to say that my opinions are coloured by the fact that I am ill at present. Truthfully, after taking revolting medication for years and seeing no improvements I am questioning if I have been given the right diagnosis and if the medication is not doing more harm than good.

#Role Reversal

image from http://www.npr.org                    FDR – would he ever have been elected if people had known he was ‘disabled’?

Even though I have been ‘ill’ for some time it did not stop me from being a part time carer for my Dad when he had cancer. All Dad needed was the support to go through with his journey and he asked for very little. When my ex-husband had a mental breakdown and became chronically depressed I was his carer for many years.  When my mother was diagnosed as terminally ill I was her carer for the larger part of the day. I never once, throughout these times thought I was hard done by, being asked to do ‘extra’ or that my parents were less than they had been. I would have been speechless if anyone asked me questions about my mother’s health instead of her.

Why is this important? It is important because of the way society thinks about people. Because I am ill and my husband is technically my carer, I am somehow lessened in the eyes of the establishment. He is asked questions about me, my health, and my attitude, my ability to do things, as though I am no longer capable of understanding or answering the questions. I have been relegated to a cipher, by society at large. I’m not the only one either.

#Role Reversal  ….image from http://www.budget.gov.au


Some people have the opinion that a spouse, particularly if it is the husband, has a particularly rough time if he is the carer. They also think that they should receive accolades for doing what a woman; wife would do for her husband as a matter of course. He is thought of as being a special person for doing this. Why, because we are crossing traditional role boundaries? Role Reversal is not a new thing?

#Role reversal

image from http://www.josephinewallart.co.uk Mystical Lovers

Today is Valentine’s Day and due in large part to the many accolade laden articles I have read, praising the husband for looking after the ill or disabled wife; I have been led to believe I shouldn’t think about Valentine’s Day in the usual way. (Not that I’ve ever given it a great deal of brain play in the past). I shouldn’t hope for a card, a flower, a coffee or dinner, a Valentine wish, because I am a lesser person. I’m not hale and hearty. I have failed to pass the mark to enter the halls of the acceptable.  It’s been a very distressing and demoralising week.

Fortunately, I know, that not everyone thinks this way. Yet those who do; those who have forgotten that each person is a valuable member of society, that each person is a beautiful spirit having a human experience, has helped to undermine me, and any other ill or disadvantaged person, at a fragile moment.

If Valentine’s Day is a celebration of love then it is not restricted by age, race, infirmity, colour, creed or faith. Love simply is. There are no passwords, secret handshakes or categories to say Love can only be for these people. There are many forms of love. It should be something which enfolds everyone and lifts everyone to new heights, with happiness and joy.

It is time to stop doling out acceptance or love based on someone’s arbitrary decision which is long outmoded.

#Role Reversal

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It is not simply Valentine’s Day; it is the “Celebration of Love” Day and open to all. From my heart to yours I send wishes of love. May the day of love shine brightly in your heart.

#Role Reversal

image from stewartdesign.com –    Love and acceptance, makes the heart swell with gratitude and happiness.

Love comes in many forms, don’t be misled by thinking it has to be a people love…. animals unconditional love and acceptance of people have saved more sanity and lives than anyone can truly know. Let your companion know you love them back. It feel wonderful, Love Actually is wonderful..

Happy Celebration of Love Day 2014.

Blessings,  Susan  ♥♥♥

© Susan Jamieson 2014

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If language is not correct, then what is said is not what is meant; if what is said is not what is meant, then what must be done remains undone; if this remains undone, morals and art will deteriorate; if justice goes astray, the people will stand about in helpless confusion. Hence there must be no arbitrariness in what is said. This matters above everything. Confucius quotes

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It goes without saying that language, the art of communication is vital for everyone to express and share ideas, gain understanding of other people’s point of view, build and establish relationships of all kinds. In short it is the glue which helps to bind our society together, at least an important one.  There are others, trust, loyalty, ethics and morality, concern for your fellow-man or woman, gratitude for what we have and so on.  The list, if looked at deeply, can be immense. When things go awry it can lead to all kinds of awkward situations.

The other day I was trying to explain something. It seemed quite simple to me. It should have been a no brainer, at least to me. However, “they” were fixed in their train of thought and I couldn’t get my ideas across.  In the end I was convinced they were being deliberately obtuse and simply didn’t want to see anything but their own viewpoint. I didn’t know enough or understand the subject to present a valid viewpoint.  I felt hurt, annoyed, dismissed and wondering if I should be there at all. After all, if I couldn’t get a simple viewpoint across what use could I be doing there?  I progressively distanced myself, became more and more distressed by the situation and seriously considered my involvement at all. Not a good result or a good place to be. It was also an exaggerated response due to a lack of connection.

two people ignoring each other
Communication can be shared by more than the language we speak, more than the words we use. It is common to use gestures, facial expressions and body language to reinforce what we are talking about. Some nationalities are renowned for their use of gesturing whilst talking, it is almost an essential part of the communication process.  (Think Italians for one). Someone who is adept at reading the tells (those indicators we subconsciously make as we are thinking or talking to another person) can be an invaluable aid when negotiating in business.  It is invaluable not only in  businesses but whenever we are trying to reach a settlement or agreement of any kind with another person or group of people.

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“Comprehension” has been defined as “the act or action of grasping with the intellect”, which makes “Incomprehension” – the “inability or failure to comprehend; lack of understanding”.  Definitions aside, it is plain to see that if two people, (or more if you want to add more confusion,) are attempting to  discuss something and they are unable to grasp what the other is saying, then one or the other will begin to be confused, it becomes frustrating and if you are fervent in your attempt to get your message across it can become aggravating, irritating and downright annoying.  You begin to wonder if there is something wrong with the language you are using or the intelligence of the person you are speaking with.

However, when it becomes a case of incomprehension ruling the day, it may lead to all kinds of unpleasant results. Gesticulation is often increased, almost as if hand gestures will aid the explanation. The face becomes intense, words become clipped and there is an increase in blood pressure.  Sometimes one person will remain fairly “relaxed” whilst the other party becomes increasingly flustered. This tends to increase the irritation felt by the other party.  Alternatively both parties become irate,  a recipe for disaster. In a group it is magnified ten fold. “What did you say?” can take on a whole new meaning.

two people arguing
This may seem rather amusing to an outsider.  It may seem humorous to someone who is present but not involved. However, for at least one person this situation will be causing distress and possibly some angst if not anger. There is so much frustration attached to being unable to make yourself understood that you being to wonder if you are on another planet. Why oh why, is it so impossible for the other person to understand, what to you, is such a simple statement or concept? Therein lies the crux of the matter.  We are all taught by different teachers. We all learn from the lives we lead and the people we associate with. Miscommunications, have in the past led to physical confrontations. It is becoming so commonplace we hear about it on the news on a daily basis. Our political leaders are not a good example as they descend to childish snipping for all to see. They have, on occasion, even resulted in a fracas in parliament.

politician fighting in Ukraine

, “The Wondrous”.
So perhaps, before “flying off the handle”, retreating into  a state of dejection and pathos, we need to refocus and try to see things from a new perspective. Gain some “Comprehension” from the other side and avoid the “Incomprehension”. At least that way when we ask “What did you say?” we are likely to get a more measured response and head off copying the antics of people who should know better.

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